Foley's Follies

You can't judge a book by it's cover, but you can judge it by it's other attributes.

I was listening to the radio and they were talking about the Foley case. I'm sure you all know all about it so I won't go into details. What I found interesting was that a lot of parents called into the show and have recently (due to Foley) talked to their kids about the internet and how you can't trust people on it. What may seem one way, actually is another. A parent said since her kid was young she started by telling the kid about not all dogs that wag their tails are nice. She told her child that any dog that may look friendly enough could actually surprise a person with a bite or worst. And people are the same way. They may seem innocent and friendly and then in reality could be after something entirely different.

People can tell you anything on the internet and we then choose to believe them or not. Now it's pure guessing on my part, but in the past I've talked to a lot of people online. Knowing what I've heard about them later on… or their true colors come out later they usually ended up lying about one thing or another. I can't say this about everyone because there are good people out there. But I've been through most of the drama before and people do lie. Hell I've seen several guys even pretend to be me using my pictures and info so that I guess they could get their rocks off because they don't like they way they are (question)… they must really be some sad people with themselves.

People (including me) can be very naive about what is going on.

So to all of you out there be careful and keep at least one eye open. I wish people wouldn't completely trust when they start talking to someone and be overly friendly until they really start to know the person they are dealing with. I know that sounds harsh, but in these times we almost need it to some degree.

On a slightly different note, my husband Chuck got a nice little note the other day from someone from hotornot. His profile is very clear about him only wanting to make friends and he already has someone. This guy writes him and says "you are really cute, wish you weren't married". Now why did this guy click yes then? It's obvious what he was after. He wasn't trying to be friends but rather his first thought and note (which should have been along the friends line) to Chuck was more like "Hey you're cute… wish you weren't married because I would like to do you.. And now that I have said this you at least know I think this way and maybe tell me if I have a chance.. At least you know and the option is out there". He didn't say all of that, but gay guys are easy reads sometimes. He had no interest in just being friends if he states that he wishes Chuck wasn't married.

This example sort of fits in to the whole blog because if you keep that eye open you can ask yourself "Why did this person say that.. Or react this way?" Don't just read the words, but really read it. I seriously doubt a guy that wants to be just my friend is going to start out a conversation with anything like "You're cute, gorgeous, or hot", and especially then say "I wish you weren't married". There is more they are after. They made an effort to choose those words.

So getting back to the Foley, while he did these bad things I do have to say that some of these kids that he talked to should have seen it coming with some of the things Foley said. I'm not going to say what Foley did was right at all. But if the kids had a little internet savvy they may have seen it coming and either ignored him or said they had no interests. But I have a feeling some of them loved the attention or drawn to his power which got them in that bad situation.